Help Save My Marriage

Help Save My Marriage
by Schfi Douce

If your spouse has done something which has left you feeling extremely betrayed or very hurt, and now your marriage is in crisis. Despite the hurt, you may be wondering to yourself, "Is there anything that can help save my marriage?" If you are feeling this way, you are definitely not alone. Many people struggle with that very thought every day.

In order to get your marriage back on track though, you must start with yourself. While you may very well have reason to feel angry or hurt, if you really want someone to respond to your plea to "help save my marriage", you are going to have to look within. Because if you are like so many people, your reaction to your spouse's behavior, whatever it was he or she did, can play a significant role in whether or not your marriage survives.

To get you started, take a look at these three steps to saving a marriage in crisis.

"Help Me Save My Marriage Quick!" Step #1

Stay away from self pity, don't play the victim. Yes, you have been wronged and it would be easy, maybe even expected of you to go into victim-mode. Perhaps you have been cheated on or lied to. Serious problems, yes. Getting caught up in self pity or playing the victim won't do you or your relationship any good. Not only does this make a person less desirable, you will also lose the respect of your spouse as well as others.

Choosing to be strong and work threw this challenging time is much more productive. Take responsibility for how you react in direct response to whatever has happened to you. You may not be able to change what has happened, but you have a choice in how you handle the situation.

"Help Me Save My Marriage Quick!" Step #2

Don't hold onto to your anger. If you truly want the chance for your relationship to heal, you must be willing to let go of your anger and find a way to forgive. It can be difficult, no doubt, but you really need to do it for you. Often people think that forgiveness is for the other person, but it is more for the person who is forgiving. Holding onto anger not only takes an incredible amount of energy, it also keeps you stuck.

By the way, forgiving your spouse does not mean you condone his or her actions or that this will be easily forgotten. What it does mean is that you commit to moving foreword and leave the pain behind you. The benefit of forgiving your spouse enables you to focus your energy on healing and repairing your relationship.

"Help Me Save My Marriage Quick!" Step #3

Don't be judge, jury and executioner. You may see it as a right of the betrayed to judge their spouse harshly. But aren't we all susceptible of doing things we never dreamed of, if put in the right situation? Remember you to have and will make mistakes. Your self-righteousness will not help the healing process.

To answer the burning question, "Can my marriage be saved?" you must avoid being to judgmental, the sooner you try to understand your spouses feelings and behavior instead of condemning them, the sooner you will be able to move on to repairing your relationship and making it stronger than it ever was before.

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