Help Me Save My Marriage

If you are crying out "Help Me Save My Marriage" before it turns into a divorce? Pull it together! It is gut wrenching, watching a marriage that was so beautiful turn into something so different. It is heart breaking to see two people that meant so much to each other, go their separate ways, growing apart day after day. Well, STOP IT! If you don't want this to happen to you, then you need to pull it together and do something about it.

First you need to focus.

Take a moment or two and step back away from the situation. I'm not saying you need a break from your partner or a separation. You just need to calm down and collect your thoughts. It is so easy, (especially when love is involved) for things to get overheated and fast. The best thing to do when this happens between you and your lover is to breathe and count to ten, just like your mother told you to do when you were little. Give yourself time to regain control of your emotions.

It may sound silly to you but it works. Before you do or say anything that you will regret, take a breath. The next time something is said or done to you that makes you mad, calm down and pull yourself together, let go of the anger. In order to learn how to truly communicate and move on to the next step of saving your marriage or relationship, you will have to control your emotions.

While you are breathing and getting your emotion in check, now is the time to take a look at what is happening. Try to look at the situation from another point of view. Right now, your perspective of things might look pretty bad. Try to look at it from another perspective and it may not be as bad as you thought.

Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes or an outsider’s perspective. From there you may see a simple solution or at least get an idea why things are getting out of control.

Don't take yourselves so seriously. It is really easy to take a small problem, disagreement or miss-communication and have it snow ball out of control. When you take the time to look at the situation from other points of view, you may find yourselves laughing about the whole thing.

Time to learn and grow:

Now that you have the basic skills of calming yourself down and trying to see things from different perspectives you can move on. When you are able to drill down to the root of the problem and see the situation for what it really is, it becomes more manageable to get things back on track.

Now is the time to learn and grow by committing to finding way to improve. Does it seem like you are the one that takes little problems and blow them out of proportion? Have you been guilty of over reacting? If this is true, then stop. By improving the way you handle certain things, you may just find that everything falls into place.

Stop screaming "Help Save My Marriage" and start doing something about it. You can take the important steps to make everything fall into place.