Common Sense, Relationship Saving Secrets

Common Sense, Relationship Saving Secrets
by Schfi Douce

John is a workaholic and doesn't spend enough time with his wife. Jane is deeply involved in their children s Life and spends most of her day tending to their needs. John feels Jane doesn't try to meet his needs. Can this relationship be saved? Or is it doomed to fail? What are some positive steps they can take to save this relationship.

Couples stay together many times for the wrong reasons. Staying together for the children or because it a matter of convenience is just not enough for a lasting healthy relationship. In order to save a relationship both parties must make a true commitment to make it last.

Have you asked yourself, "Is this relationship worth saving?" Just about every relationship can be save with some hard work, but the couple must come to terms together to make it work. There is not much that can be done if one party refuses to try any longer.

The next step in how to save a relationship is get to the root the problem or problems in the relationship. I say get to the root of the problem because sometimes the symptom of the problem can be perceived as the problem itself. Let me give you an example; You can easily confuse an affair as being the cause of a relationship break up. When in truth, the affair is just a reaction to a deeper underlying problem. Maybe the lack of true intimacy forced one of the parties to find it else where. If you don't deal with the intimacy problem, you may be able stop an other affair but some sort of other problem will eventually pop up. Dealing with core issues instead of the symptoms is key to saving a relationship. After you have gotten to the root of the real problem or problems you can start to come together on how to resolve the core issues

A great way to jump start the reconnecting process, is to hold your partners hand while listening to their concerns about life and your relationship. Try to remember that if your partner brings up a subject that is sensitive to you, don't take it as a personal attack. Take it as a concern of your partners that needs to be resolved in order to move on with the healing process. It is not a way to hurt you, but share the pain with them if it is there. Now that you and your partner have committed to building a better healthier relationship, make plan and stick to it every day. Live as one and take on the world as one.

Studies have shown that the couples that keep dating though out their relationship, stay together longer and are happier for it. That being said, make a date night. Take turns coming up with new ideas on how to spend you time together, just the two of you. If a weekly date night doesn't work for you, set aside a small window of time each day to communicate to your partner.

Don't give up. Remember that saving a relationship is an on going process. Commit to the saving the relationship and take positive steps needed to do so. Except that there is going to be bumps in the road that you will have to deal with. The key is to deal with them sooner rather than later, so as to prevent them festering into another symptom.

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